Fear of failure is an Obstacle to Pursuing Goals

I recently was browsing through my book titled “The Wealth in the Great Kingdom” (an exceptionally engaging read, by the way!). and decided to analyze the quote. “People are afraid of failure, and that’s why they very rarely take on something that is in their best interest or something that is their dream.” This isn’t some revolutionary, unheard-of revelation, right? We all know it to some extent.” Think about it. How many times have you had an idea, a goal, a little whisper of a dream, and then… crickets? Not because you didn’t want it, but because the “what if” monster has reared its ugly head? What if I try to start a side business and no one buys anything? What if the office mocks my request for a promotion? What if I enroll in that art class and my drawing resembles a toddler’s scribble? What if I start this blog (meta, I know!) and no one reads it? This fear of failure is more than just a bothersome voice; it truly stifles our potential. It stops us from even trying to do things that are explicitly good for us or deeply rooted in our hearts. And here’s the thing: It’s not just about grand, life-changing dreams. It’s also about the smaller, everyday things that could make a big difference in our lives. Asking for help, setting boundaries, taking a different route to work, trying a new recipe, and learning a new skill can all make a significant difference in our lives. These are all things that could be “in our favor,” but the fear of messing things up, looking stupid, or “wasting” time can hold us back. So what’s going on here? We’re so terrified of a bad outcome that we completely shut out the possibility of a good one. To avoid the risk of tripping, we’re staying put, even if it’s not where we want to be. But here’s a little secret: Everyone fails. Seriously. Every successful person you admire has a graveyard of failed attempts behind them. The difference? They didn’t let those failures define them or stop them from taking the next step. They learned, they changed, and they kept going. What actions can we take to overcome this? Reframe failure: Rather than viewing it as a catastrophic event, view it as a valuable piece of information. “Okay, that didn’t work. Why? What can I do differently next time?” This isn’t a stop sign; it’s a workaround. Start small. Do you have a big dream? Break it down into the smallest, most doable first step. Don’t want to fail while writing a novel? Just write one sentence today. Don’t want to fail your presentation? Just make a plan on the first slide. Embrace imperfection: “It’s better to be done than perfect” is a mantra for a reason. Go out there, try, stumble, and learn. It’s all part of the process. Think about the cost of not trying: What’s worse than failure? Imagine looking back years later and wondering "what if" you had just taken that step. Regret is often much more painful than a wrong step. This line from “The Wealth in the Great Kingdom” isn’t just an observation; it’s a challenge. It’s a call to look at what we’re hiding from ourselves because of fear, which is often much scarier in our heads than it really is. What is one thing you’ve been putting off because of fear of failure? Maybe today is the day to take just one small step in that direction. Even if it feels like a stumble, it’s still a step forward. What are your thoughts on this? Let me know in the comments below! Let’s overcome these fears together. 

 

When Fear Takes Control

Quote from the book "The Wealth of Great Kingdom": "If a man loses control and fears take over..." It's simple, but it carries so much weight. We all know that feeling, right? It's a moment when you lose control and fear takes over.  The quote seems to hint at some human truths, especially regarding success, wealth, and perhaps even just navigating life in general.  "loss of control." What does that even mean? To me, it depicts a situation in which you are not acting rationally. You're not weighing options, considering consequences, or even thinking clearly. Maybe you're in a high-stress situation, facing a major setback, or dealing with something emotionally overwhelming. Whatever the trigger, the rational part of your brain tends to recede, leading you to simply react. Think about it: Have you ever made a rash decision because you were scared? Maybe you panicked and sold an investment during a market downturn, even though you knew it was probably a disastrous idea in the long run. Or maybe you said something you regretted in the heat of an argument driven by fear of losing the relationship. That’s a loss of control. You’re acting from a place of reactive emotion, not proactive thought.  "Fear overcomes him." This stage is where things get really interesting. Fear is a powerful motivator, and not always in a beneficial way. When fear takes over, it distorts our perception. We see threats everywhere, even where they may not exist. We focus on the worst-case scenarios, and everything seems magnified.  Consider the entrepreneur who fears failure. This fear can lead them to be overly cautious, missing out on potentially lucrative opportunities. They may be so afraid of taking risks that they never grow their business to its full potential. In this case, the fear becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, holding them back from achieving the “riches” mentioned in the book. But it’s not just about financial wealth, is it? The quote from the book “The Wealth of the Great Kingdom" is probably about more than just money. It could be about wealth in experiences, in relationships, or in inner peace. And fear can sabotage all of that, too. Fear of rejection can keep you from forming meaningful connections. Fear of the unknown can keep you stuck, preventing you from experiencing new things and growing as a person. So what’s the antidote? How do we prevent fear from hijacking our lives and derailing us? Well, acknowledging the problem is the first step. Recognizing when you’re acting from a place of fear is crucial. It’s about being honest with yourself and acknowledging that your emotions are clouding your judgment. Then it’s about building strategies to manage those fears. This can include anything from practicing mindfulness and meditation to help you stay grounded in the present to seeking advice from trusted mentors or friends who can offer a more objective perspective. Sometimes, simply talking through your fears can help reduce their power. It’s also important to remember that fear is a normal human emotion. We’re wired to experience it. The key isn’t to eliminate fear entirely—that’s probably impossible—but to learn how to manage it, understand its triggers, and stop it from dictating our decisions. Ultimately, control is the key to success, however you define it. And that control comes from understanding and managing our fears, rather than letting them manage us. It’s about taking back the helm from fear and steering your own ship, even when the waters get rough. Easier said than done, of course, but definitely worth striving for.